Saturday, January 30, 2010

Loving my Man while carrying a Baby

John is a wonderful husband! I am constantly discovering priceless qualities in this incredible man I get to share my life with. But with pregnancy, and all the changes, and nausea, and tiredness, it can be very easy for me to develop temporary amnesia and forget what a blessing he truly is.

Because of my need for extra rest I have a lot more time to read. I was so happy to re-discover Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes (one of the best thrift store purchase I've made!) I found this list under the heading of Twenty-Five Ways to Show Respect:
  1. Do not talk down to him.
  2. Do not talk badly about him to others.
  3. Do not check behind him to make sure he did something to your standards.
  4. Do not disregard his wishes.
  5. Do not ignore his requests.
  6. Do not laugh at his mistakes.
  7. Do not make him the brunt of your jokes.
  8. Do not compare him to other men.
  9. Do not complain about your finances or his abilities as a provider.
  10. Do not speak sarcastically or with verbal jabs.
  11. Do not roll your eyes when he makes a comment you do not agree with.
  12. Do not continually "have a better idea."

Instead:

  1. Talk with him in a pleasant tone.
  2. Speak highly or compliment him in front of others.
  3. Allow him to do tasks his own way and then thank him when he is finished.
  4. Value his opinions
  5. Support his decisions.
  6. Try to fulfill his requests.
  7. Thank him for providing for your family
  8. Allow him to make the final decisions
  9. Support him is his decisions, regardless of the outcome
  10. Avoid the words, "I told you so."
  11. Take care of your appearance.
  12. Ask his opinions about your clothes and hairstyle.
  13. Tell him you are proud of him.

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